The holidays bring mixed emotions for family members caring for aging parents or an ill spouse, relative or family friend. Many family caregivers feel so weary and overwhelmed with daily duties that the thought of idyllic families enjoying the holidays only adds sadness, depression and resentment.

The following suggestions from Right at Home Inc. can help lighten the load for family adult home care providers from now through New Year’s:

• Allow for “good enough.” If the tree lights are uneven this year, tell yourself that it’s good enough. If you need to send your holiday cards after Jan. 1, it’s good enough. For family caregivers already stretched thin, perfect isn’t always the wise choice.