While there’s nothing particularly wrong with New Year’s resolutions, there’s often a self-loathing quality to them that’s sort of off-putting.

Setting goals is great. Who doesn’t want to be a better boss, employee, husband, father, friend, etc.? There’s nothing wrong with placing expectations on ourselves to grow spiritually or professionally, or to improve health. But most of that critical kind of self-improvement is difficult to quantify.

Many New Year’s resolutions start with a focus on some flaw or perceived flaw that a person has. I’m “too fat” or “too lazy” are often the inspiration. Well, maybe, but that’s not really a great premise to start a new year.