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Bullying is not something that happens just in someone else's neighborhood, or in someone else's school district.

Bullying happens right here in McHenry County, sometimes with deadly consequences. We don't want to write about more children killing themselves because they no longer could take the bullying.

"Confronting the Bully" is a special Northwest Herald report on bullying in McHenry County and what we can do to stop it.

Over the past several months, we've talked to victims of bullying, and family members of bullying victims. We've talked to educators, counselors and other experts. We surveyed administrators of dozens of McHenry County schools. We'll report our initial findings in a four-day series Sept. 26 through Sept. 29. But our reporting will not end with the series.

"Confronting the Bully" will be a year-round project. Please join us on this journey.

Methods to prevent bullying

If you are being bullied online:
  • Don’t respond to bullying or inappropriate messages, but save them as evidence.
  • Always report online bullying to an adult.
  • Block the email addresses and cell phone numbers of people who send unwanted messages.
  • File complaints with service providers.
  • When in doubt about what to do, log off the computer and ask for help from a trusted adult.
Source: Anti-Defamation League
If you are being bullied:
  • Ignore the bully's behavior whenever possible.
  • Use social skills, such as assertiveness, instead of using aggression and intimidation.
  • Rebuff the bully in a firm manner.
  • Protect yourself emotionally and physically without using retaliation.
  • Ask the bully to stop, and then walk away.
  • Defuse the situation with humor.
  • Spend time in groups of students you can trust.
Source: Bully Proof USA

'Confronting the Bully' series stories

WASHINGTON (AP) — Margaret Fiester is no shrinking violet, but she says working for her former boss was a nightmare.
CRYSTAL LAKE – In six personal journals and diaries, Rachel Joy Scott left her family, and ultimately the world, a legacy of kindness and compassion.
McHENRY – “Finding Kind” opens with a young girl talking about thoughts of suicide. The girl, Holly, uses her sweatshirt sleeve to wipe away tears as she speaks. She was bullied by other girls at school.
Although the state gets high marks for its bullying prevention efforts, some argue that laws fall short of protecting schoolchildren.
Schools across the area have their own methods of confronting the bully. Their tactics may be different, but their goals are the same – keep students safe and able to learn in peace.
For me, the bullying began in sixth grade.
CRYSTAL LAKE – As the kickoff for next week’s Rachel’s Challenge, an anti-bullying program, Hannah Beardsley Middle School turned to an upbeat speaker and humor Friday.
As society has become more aware of cyberbullying in the past few years, more children and teens are coming forward about being intimidated or harassed online. That’s according to Justin Patchin, professor at the University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire and co-director of the Cyberbullying Research Center.
Parents being involved and knowledgeable of their children’s Internet use is a key deterrent in preventing or reducing cyberbullying.
WONDER LAKE – Crystal Gray always knew she was different. Her classmates picked up on it, too.
The profile of a bully used to be simple, and potential bullies were thought to be easy to spot.
As communities start to recognize that bullying is a problem that needs to be addressed, one question must be asked: Have we done enough to prevent it?
There’s a certain level of selfishness among adults with regard to bullying. We’re well on the other side of adolescence.
One of the biggest conversations in our nation today is about bullying.
While the methods of bullying are changing somewhat from playground conflicts to Internet torment, the faces of those who are bullied haven’t changed much over time.

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